It is perfectly natural, healthy, and OK to have negative thoughts. We ALL have them. People that suggest that you should always be positive and shouldn’t have a negative thought are not necessarily living in reality, nor are they giving you sound advice.
Guess what??? You can be an optimist and still have negative thoughts.
Denying the fact that you sometimes have negative thoughts is an attempt to escape from reality.
OPTIMISM is an EQ skill. Optimism means acknowledging reality, which may include a negative experience, thought, or situation and CHOOSING to find a way to maintain a positive outlook.
Learning how to engage with your negative thoughts in a healthy way is the key to practicing optimism and high EQ.
Don’t let your negative thoughts consume you.
Instead observe them without judging.
Be curious… ask yourself why you are having these thoughts.
Sometimes, it is appropriate to sit with them.
When you are ready…
Can you rewrite the script to more positive thoughts?
I find meditation and yoga are very helpful when I am trying to work through negative emotions.