Things I know to be true…
1. When you first acknowledge that you have vulnerabilities, it can be terrifying and exhilarating at the same time. Allowing yourself to acknowledge vulnerability opens the door to great expectations for yourself and enables you to try new things.
2. We are happiest when we are learning and growing. When embrace our vulnerabilities and surrender to them, we welcome professional/personal learning and growth.
3. Vulnerability is uncomfortable and sometimes excruciating, but our vulnerability is what makes others gravitate towards us, both professionally and personally. It’s what allows others to see us as genuine.
From the outside looking in, I seemed to be enjoying a successful career and to be completely satisfied. However, for me, it took the loss of a loved one for me to surrender to my own vulnerabilities and embrace them. It has been painful at times allowing these walls to crumble that I believed made me so strong. In fact, they were holding me back both professionally and personally. I have used the discipline of Emotional Intelligence and the counsel of others to help me peel back the layers of those walls and to work towards becoming more than I expected of myself. As a result, I embraced my fears and started my own business in 2016. Embracing my vulnerabilities has allowed me to navigate towards great expectations, feed my soul, and help other leaders within organizations.
I believe that sometimes we lack the urgency to move from good to great because of our fear of vulnerability. Below are 10 ways that I believe embracing your vulnerabilities will increases your success at work.
10 Ways that Embracing your Vulnerabilities Increases your Success at Work:
- You give yourself permission, you believe you are worthy, and you are confident when negotiating for a higher salary
- You believe you are worthy of putting your name in the hat for a promotion
- You embrace change, possibly changing jobs or careers, when you are unhappy and you know your current role, boss, or organization is not a good fit for you
- You are confident when speaking up and believe that you bring value
- You know that asking for feedback or help is a sign of strength
- You welcome criticism, because you know it will help you learn and grow
- You willingly acknowledge you want more and find ways to challenge mediocrity
- You are inspired to lead others
- You recognize the power of apologies and own up to your mistakes
- You consistently find ways to acknowledge others’ contributions
When you fear vulnerability, it doesn’t go away. It manifests in: disengagement at work, loneliness, settling for the status quo, absenteeism, depression, self-medication, and poor health. However, when you embrace vulnerability, you are energized and engaged, you challenge the status quo, you don’t accept mediocrity, you set high goals for yourself and others, and you are more resilient.
One of my favorite quotes that has helped me in my journey of embracing my vulnerabilities is by Summer Saldana.
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can become who you were meant to be in the first place.”- Summer Saldana
About the Author:
Kris Macchiarola, Ed. S. is the president and owner of KMACCSOLUTIONS, LLC. Visit www.kmaccsolutions.com to learn more. Kris Macchiarola is certified by Multi Health Systems to administer the EQi-2.0 assessment portfolio (EQi-2.0 self/360/team), debrief results, and provide individual coaching or group trainings. The EQi-2.0 is backed by 30 years of research. Kris is a Channel Partner for The Ken Blanchard Companies and is certified to facilitate Situational Leadership II for leaders. Kris holds a Masters and an Education Specialist Degree, in School Psychology, from the University of South Florida.